Teens today have so much more to distract them besides their
homework, the opposite sex, friends, family members, and
extracurricular activities. Besides learning how to drive, teenagers
are occupied with playing with an assortment of electronic gizmos
including cell phones, camera phones, personal computers, MP3 players,
DVD players, ipods, xboxs, digital cameras, the list goes on. Wired?
You betcha…and then some. Perhaps all of this electronic gadgetry has
you concerned and you are wondering just how you can extract your teen
and involve them in an outside activity where they can expand their
minds and refresh their bodies. Are you out of ideas? Let’s look at
some options that may appeal to them and remove the worry from you.
Work on the Car So, you think that a car isn’t a kid
magnet as much as when you first learned how to drive? Think again.
Today, kids are pimping their rides and expressing themselves through
their cars. Custom paint, decals, blacked out windows, even faux
aircraft wings are being attached to the outside of their cars. On the
inside, it can be totally surreal: rear view mirrors wrapped with a
studded belts, frilly seat cover trim, pushpin art attached to the
headliner, decals everywhere, etc. Let them pimp your Camry or
Explorer…that’ll keep them off the computer…and get you noticed too!
Volunteer Help your teen organize a group of his or her
friends to clean up the neighborhood, paint an elderly neighbor’s
house, teach younger kids how to ride bikes, or visit folks at the
local nursing home. You remember when you were a teen and you heard the
comments from your parent’s generation about kids not wanting to do
anything or being “no good,” right? With a little direction, young
people can do just about anything and are more than willing to help out
if you believe in them. Rewards are nice too…be prepared to throw a
pizza party after their time of service is over for the day.
Get a Job Kids who hold a job while going to school learn
how to handle their money and budget their time. Limit work hours to
fewer than 20 per week to ensure that their grades are not adversely
affected. If your student is involved in extracurricular activities
too, make sure that this time is included with the hours that they
work. Maintaining good grades is essential, no job or outside activity
is worth it if it takes away from their schooling.
In all cases, show your teen that you believe in him or
her. As you know, parenting is much more than providing for their
needs…you want to guide your child from youth toward adulthood by
showing them that there is much more to life than all things
electronic. So, gently disconnect your teen and get them involved with
other pursuits.